January 5, 2012

Change is hard

As I mentioned below, Swee’Pea and TheMonk are destined for their own rooms. We ordered loft-style beds for each and Swee’Pea’s came last week. This past weekend I mustered all of my furniture-assembly skills and built Swee’Pea’s princess bed.

And while Swee’Pea was clearly excited, she was also apprehensive. She has a history of being scared to try new things and this was no different. She shed a few tears and asked for her old bed back. TheMonk, also feeling vulnerable and unsure, did the same. It was heartbreaking to see the looks on their faces as they faced the great unknown that stretches before them. It was like they understood the significance of this moment – that they would be going their separate paths – and weren’t quite ready.

So we gave hugs and kisses and reassurances and on the first night in her new bed, Swee’Pea chose to sleep with TheMonk. Notice the holding of hands, even as they sleep. May they always have each other when they need it most.

Big Kids


  1. Oh Matthew… This makes my heart ache! The sibling relationship is special enough, I think twins must go to an entirely new level. They will always have that special relationship, unique to them alone. Bless! This almost made me well up. I have a reputation you know!!!!

    Comment by Feistykel — January 5, 2012 @ 10:03 pm

  2. I absolutely loved this post! And wish my two had a bond like that. Maybe someday. :)

    Comment by Katrina — January 5, 2012 @ 10:08 pm

  3. Love this post and love their relationship. Each strengthening the other… Change is hard!

    And great job on furniture assembly!

    Comment by Wiley — January 6, 2012 @ 7:48 am

  4. Too sweet. My two split up this year. It was the older’s idea/request/demand, but I think she regrets it a bit now and then.

    Comment by Nancy [Spinning My Plates] — January 6, 2012 @ 12:32 pm

  5. Such sweetness. I love that they are so close and bonded to each other. I, too, hope they always have that.

    Comment by Kate — January 6, 2012 @ 8:18 pm

  6. We’re headed to a new school soon – and the kids will be in each other’s class for the remaining of the year – for just that reason…

    Comment by Stacy — January 11, 2012 @ 5:34 pm

  7. We are living parallel lives! But our twins are 10 yrs old. Still, circumstances in our house were such that they just got their own rooms last month. And the open apprehension on their faces was heart-wrenching, even though they’ve been wanting this for the last year. And just like yours, my daughter chose to sleep in her brother’s new bed the first night! I’m so glad that you managed to get a good photo, including the hand-holding!

    Comment by Aina — January 13, 2012 @ 1:12 pm

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