March 21, 2010

Learning to take the path less traveled

Ever since I can remember, I have wanted to instill in my kids the fact that they don’t need to always conform to what others expect. I want them to feel like they can blaze their own path to whatever they want to achieve in their lives. And, most of all, I want them to live their life without limiting themselves because they are worried about what other people think.

At almost-five years, I worry that maybe that lesson isn’t sinking in. I worry when my kids cling to me at preschool in the morning rather than racing off to join their friends. I worry when they don’t like my idea of showing everyone their uvula when they have to bring something that starts with the letter U for show and tell. I want to shout out to them, “Don’t do what everyone else does! Be different! People will respect you for being an individual!” But then, I look into their young, innocent eyes and I acquiesce by grabbing the umbrella and stuffed unicorn. I guess, they’re not ready for uvulas quite yet.

But then, on other days, I am blown away by the paths that Swee’Pea and TheMonk choose to blaze. One day I’m encouraging them to be leaders - to do their own thing without a thought of what they look like or what others will think - and the next day, I walk into our play room and find TheMonk looking like this:

TheMonk is experiencing a severe identity crisis.

Yep. They’re gonna be just fine.


  1. Just fine indeed!

    Comment by angela — March 21, 2010 @ 10:05 pm

  2. Man, I love that picture.

    Hey, what are the chances of you showing *us* your uvula?? ;-)

    Comment by Maura — March 21, 2010 @ 10:16 pm

  3. You know, he’s really going to hate that picture some day. I’m sure his first girlfriend will love to see it. ;-)

    Comment by kathygee1 — March 21, 2010 @ 10:29 pm

  4. I love this, and I completely agree - they’re on the right path, no doubt. This is the upside of the uncanny pace they keep, I think, always tweaking things on you when you least expect it. It’s sweetest in cases like these, when you end up feeling reassured, proud, amused, any of the above. Thanks for sharing the treasure of a picture - that there’s a keeper.

    Comment by @kristeneileen — March 22, 2010 @ 12:48 am

  5. I have to show my parents this picture. They were excited by my son wearing pink sparkly heels. Who knew he was missing out on the matching purse?

    Comment by Jess — March 22, 2010 @ 6:31 am

  6. Go-oh-oh-oh, TheMONK!

    Comment by Aina — March 22, 2010 @ 11:15 am

  7. That. Is. AWESOME.

    Comment by Deanna — March 22, 2010 @ 4:07 pm

  8. Surely, Bobby is smiling from heaven.

    Comment by Grandmother — March 22, 2010 @ 7:49 pm

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