October 22, 2006

Raspberry Kisses

The song Butterfly Kisses by Bob Carlisle is a song played at so many weddings. It makes me cry every time I hear it. Every time. I can’t help but think of Swee’Pea as I listen to the words. And as I have listened to this song lately I have begun to think how this song might have been written for my little boy. So, I changed the lyrics, while thinking of TheMonk. If you’re not familiar with the song, it might be hard to imagine the lyrics in context, but if you do know the song, hopefully you’ll recognize that these lyrics match those of the original.

In my life there’s a special joy
It’s holding the hand, of my little boy.

As I play by his side in the light of the morn
He laughs at Daddy while I smile wide
And I thank God for all of the joy in my life
But most of all…

For Raspberry Kisses and big hugs to share
Trying to tame the curls in his unruly hair
“Can you teach me how to throw it daddy straight and true”
“Thanks for the bike Daddy. I love you.”
And for all that I thought being a father would be,
I didn’t count on… Laughter every morning and raspberry kisses at night.

Sixteen years old today…
Wanting the car keys and he’ll be on his way.
Growing up right before my eyes
First learning his colors then becoming so wise
Becoming a man in this great big world…

But I remember…
Raspberry kisses and big hugs to share
Trying to tame the curls in his unruly hair
“You know how much I love you Dad, but if you don’t mind.
I’m gonna go and hang out with my friends this time.”
And for all that I thought being a father would be,
I didn’t count on… Laughter in the morning and big bear hugs at night.

Where went all the time?
In the blink of an eye it was by.
Once my little guy
Now ready to say good-bye.

His life will change today.
He’ll make a promise to love her more everyday.
Watching him all dressed up – so very handsome.
He looks at me and smiles and say’s, “Hey Dad, What’s up?”
I say, “I’m just so proud of my Baby Boy.”
And he comes over…
Gives me a big bear hug with his mama there
Trying to tame the curls in his unruly hair.
“Thanks for everything Dad. I love you so.”
“How’s my tuxedo looking? It’s time to go.”

Oh for all that I thought being a father would be,
Those big bear hugs and raspberry kisses -
I couldn’t ask God for more, man this is what love is.

And I know I have to say goodbye, but I’ll always remember.
Those big bear hugs and raspberry kisses.


  1. Note to self, don’t put mascera on before coming to read what Matthew wrote.

    Beautiful song. Hell, you should send it in to that guy and see if he does someting with it.

    Comment by Melissa — October 22, 2006 @ 11:58 am

  2. I’m de-lurking to finally say that the love you have for your children is so palpable…I enjoy my visits here so much! Thank you for sharing your love…


    Comment by Lillithmother — October 22, 2006 @ 12:05 pm

  3. You are quite the dad. I hope you have all of this stuff saved for your children. They’ll appreciate it when they become parents themselves… I have a song that gets me every time I hear it too, Harry Chapin’s “Cats in the Cradle.” The thought of missing out on my son’s life, as the dad in the song did both saddens and inspires me all at the same time.

    Comment by Keith — October 22, 2006 @ 2:12 pm

  4. I don’t think I know that song, which is weird, because I’m pretty good with stuff like that, not to mention I’ve been to my share of weddings.

    Nice lyrics though.

    Comment by whit — October 22, 2006 @ 2:14 pm

  5. Are you trying to kill me? Really. Are you? Because I can’t handle it anymore! The love! The sweetness! The joy! My heart is bursting!!

    Comment by samantha jo campen — October 22, 2006 @ 5:59 pm

  6. I agree. Heartwrenching and goosebump-causing and tear-jerking. You should at least put up some sort of warning on a post like this! (Beautiful, by the way.)

    Comment by Kim — October 22, 2006 @ 6:28 pm

  7. There was a song done in the early 90′s by a Christian group, Phillips, Craig & Dean, that was specifically about a dad’s relationship with his young son. It was called “I Want To Be Just Like You”, and it’s just as much a tearjerker as “Butterfly Kisses” is for dads and daughters. I made the Webmaster listen to it after we had Tad, and it just got him good.

    Comment by Deanna — October 23, 2006 @ 12:45 am

  8. That was really good. That song came out the year that I got married and as a Daddy’s Girl, it really hit me hard. No, we didn’t use it for our wedding. I didn’t want to have extremely major water works.

    Comment by Julie — October 23, 2006 @ 8:02 am

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