Comments on: Dear God, it’s me Matthew

By: Ginger

Ginger — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 00:21:38 +0000

You shouldn’t let this stuff stress you out (unless that is you aren’t sure about you’re own beliefs about death, etc). Young kids are very accepting of information. Just tell them how it is in basic terms and you’re good to go. My 4 yr old and I recently had to wait for a funeral procession and I pointed out to her what was happening, thinknig it was a perfect way to pass our time waiting. I love explaining stuff to her because she always has such interesting questions and totally unique observations that make me see the world in a whole new way.

Now when they get older and think their friends know more than you and can act on info you’re giving them – that’s when you should stress out! Enjoy the preschool years when they’ll accept whatever you say without argument or even much surprise, no matter the topic.

By: Kellee

Kellee — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 18:03:49 +0000

I don’t think you suck at this. I think honesty is always best. It works itself out in the end. I don’t have kids, but I remember discussing the concept of “before you were born” with my little sister (11 years younger than me). I was telling her about something before she was born, and she was very bothered by that. “Well where was I?” “You weren’t born yet” “But.. who took care of me?” and on and on and on. LOL

By: Aunt Raina

Aunt Raina — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 04:26:07 +0000

Just you wait until they ask how babies get in Mommy’s tummy!

By: Kami

Kami — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 03:45:23 +0000

Your hilarious, enough said

By: Issa

Issa — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 02:51:41 +0000

Dude, you couldn’t have just said, oh looks son, did you see that motorcycle? Shit man, we have got to talk about this honesty crap.

By: Val

Val — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:20:48 +0000

Hey Matt, I know how you feel. I have that same panicky feeling every time death could become a topic of conversation. My daughter is 4 and has recently started talking about “oh he’s dead” when she’s playing with her little people. It’s all those damn Disney movies they show at school when it rains. And we’ve had a lot of rain lately. /sigh/

I’ve not had to have the detailed conversation yet, but I’m preparing for it. Ugh and Ugh.

By: Amo

Amo — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 13:21:44 +0000

We went through this exact same conversation when my mom died last October. Mine are 5 and 3 and they are BOTH still asking 1,000 questions.

My favorite is how every time we pass an ambulance, my 3 year old asks if Nana is still dead in the back of it.
Good times, gooooood times.

By: Tanya

Tanya — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 12:36:34 +0000

lol…I think you did a pretty good job answering all his questions…they sure do test us don’t they?! Love the title too

By: Kirsten

Kirsten — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 10:57:11 +0000

No great words of wisdom from me…but thank you for a good laugh.

By: Tammie

Tammie — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 06:05:19 +0000

So sorry but this was all hilarious to me. Like laugh out loud, oh crap did I just wake the kids up, hilarious. Now because I said that karma will rear it’s ugly head and my kids will bring up life and death. Oh but it was worth the laugh.